When what once guided you no longer does.

Sometimes the hardest part of change is not simply losing what you had, but no longer being quite sure who you are without it.

Whether a relationship ends, a career shifts, you move somewhere new, children leave home, a community that you once felt a part of feels misaligned, all of these can compromise our sense of direction and throw a wrench in our dreams.

If your beliefs change, your political, religious, professional, or cultural identity evolves, and you begin questioning assumptions that once helped you feel connected to the people around you, the ground can seem to shift underneath you and stability and security start to feel shaky.

At times becoming more honest about who you are comes with a real cost and can lead to lost friendships, community, status, belonging, or the comfort of knowing exactly where you fit.

All of this can be deeply disorienting. You may know you cannot simply return to an earlier version of yourself, while also feeling uncertain about what comes next.

Therapy can be a place to make sense of that in-between space.

We might explore:

• changes in identity or worldview

• losing connection with a community or social group

• friendships or family relationships strained by changing beliefs

• separation, divorce, or the end of a significant relationship

• career changes, relocation, retirement, or changing roles

• aging and questions about the life you expected to have

• grief for paths not taken

• uncertainty about belonging

• questions about purpose, meaning, freedom, and responsibility

• what you want the next part of your life to stand for

I am especially interested in working with people whose thinking, values, or sense of self has shifted in ways that have complicated their relationships or sense of belonging.

Therapy does not require you to adopt my worldview. At the same time, it is not a place where every conclusion has to go unexamined. We can be curious about how you arrived at a belief, what experiences shaped it, what still feels true, and what may deserve another look.

This work is not only intellectual. Changes in identity and belonging can bring grief, anger, relief, shame, loneliness, excitement, and fear—sometimes all at once. We make room for those feelings as well as the questions underneath them.

My approach draws from ACT, psychodynamic and relational therapy, values-based work, and existential perspectives. For clients who are interested, I can also incorporate Buddhist-informed ideas around uncertainty, attachment, impermanence, suffering, and presence.

There may not always be a neat answer to “Who am I now?”

Therapy can help you make room for that uncertainty while gradually building relationships, choices, and a life that feel more aligned with the person you are becoming.