How Therapy Works Here

A Thoughtful, Evidence-Based Approach

You are likely someone who is capable, reflective, and used to "doing the work." You may have already spent time analyzing your past, yet you still feel the physical and emotional pull of old patterns.

I believe that meaningful change begins with a safe, collaborative relationship, and it is sustained through focused, evidence-based action. My goal is to help you move beyond just "understanding" your trauma and into a life where you can show up fully for the present, without your past calling the shots.

Why My Approach is Different

If you’ve been in therapy before, you may have spent a lot of time talking about why you feel the way you do. Insight can be an important starting point, but for trauma and deeply ingrained emotional patterns, insight alone often isn’t enough to shift what your brain and body have learned.

To create lasting change, we also work with the ways the nervous system holds onto past experiences. This means gently engaging both mind and body in the healing process.

I integrate the "gold-standard" treatments for trauma and emotional regulation to provide a path forward. My approach is structured and active, while remaining flexible and responsive to the individual. We follow a thoughtful therapeutic process, but the pace and focus of our sessions are guided by what will be most helpful for you in the moment.

Much of our work tends to move through several core areas:

1. Stability and Resilience (DBT)

Using the core components of Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) — mindfulness, distress tolerance, emotion regulation, and interpersonal effectiveness — we build a practical, structured toolkit for navigating daily stressors with greater clarity and control.

Trauma often leaves behind emotional volatility, self-criticism, and relational reactivity. DBT provides a clear framework for reducing that chaos by balancing acceptance of reality with purposeful change. The work is active and skill-based, helping you respond rather than react.

  • The Goal: To create a foundation of emotional resilience and internal authority, so that trauma processing can proceed safely and effectively — and so your daily life feels composed, intentional, and aligned.

2. Processing the "Aftershocks" (EMDR)

Trauma—whether from a sudden accident, an act of violence, or years of relational wounding—can leave the nervous system looped in a survival response. We use EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) to help your brain resume its natural healing process and signal to your body that the danger has passed. Through guided bilateral stimulation, EMDR allows the brain to integrate traumatic experiences in a way that reduces emotional intensity and shifts deeply held negative beliefs (e.g., I’m not safe, I’m too much, It was my fault). The memory remains — but it no longer carries the same charge.

  • The Goal: To take the "sting" out of intrusive memories and old wounds, helping your brain finally file the past away as "over" so it stops hijacking your present.

3. Untangling the "Stuck Points" (CPT)

Trauma often forces the brain to create “rules” for survival that no longer serve you—leading to heavy cycles of shame or the belief that you’re never truly safe. Through Cognitive Processing Therapy (CPT), we identify and challenge these "stuck points" with curiosity rather than judgment, creating space for a fundamental shift in how you view others, and the world around you.

  • The Goal: To move beyond the limiting beliefs that trauma left behind, replacing them with a more balance, flexible perspective that restores your sense of agency and trust.

4. Living by Your Compass (Values-Centered)

Recovery isn't just about "fixing" symptoms; it’s about building a life that feels like yours again. We integrate a Values-Centered approach to ensure that as you heal, you are moving toward what actually matters to you—your relationships, your work, and your integrity.

  • The Goal: To move from "just surviving" to living a life that feels intentional, authentic, and worth the effort. We focus on making active choices that align with your values, helping you savor moments of ease and connection even as you continue to heal.

You don't have to stay in survival mode forever. While we work to quiet the alarm of a body activated by the past and bring your nervous system into safety, we also focus on inhabiting the life you’ve worked hard to create in the now. If you are ready to shift out of high-alert and into a life that feels intentional and authentic, let’s begin.

Hello and Welcome.

I’m Vanessa Soleil, a Licensed Mental Health Counselor offering telehealth to adults and couples throughout the state of New York and North Carolina and in office sessions in Central New York.

Finding the right therapeutic fit is essential. I aim to offer a space that is warm and supportive, while also encouraging the compassionate accountability and engaged practice required for real change.

I welcome adults (24+) from all backgrounds and am committed to honoring your individuality. This is a space for honest exploration, free from judgment or external agendas, where your unique needs and values always come first.

Professional Background

I am a graduate of NC State’s Clinical Mental Health Counseling program, and a National Certified Counselor (NCC). I am the author of the DBT for Dating Workbook. I hold dual licensure to serve clients across New York and North Carolina.

  • NY Licensed Mental Health Counselor, with Diagnostic Privilege: D012839

  • NC Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor: 14892

Advanced Training

I value continuing education and regularly pursue additional training to deepen the care I offer. My postgraduate training includes EMDR Basic Training, Gottman Method Couples Therapy Levels 1 and 2, Cognitive Processing Therapy, Exposure and Response Prevention, Inference-Based CBT, extensive training in Dialectical Behavior Therapy, as well as trainings in Internal Family Systems and body-based modalities such as Hakomi.

A little more about me…

I am based in Clinton, New York, providing teletherapy to clients throughout New York and North Carolina. I believe that living a values-centered life starts with the small things. When I’m not in the therapy room, you can usually find me walking in the woods, rollerskating, or getting lost in a good book. I’m a fan of slow rituals—writing letters, making the perfect playlist, and playing board games. I live with my partner and our two dogs, Rosie and Yoko, who remind me daily of the importance of being present.

I am also the author of the DBT for Dating Workbook (2022), a practical guide to navigating the complexities of modern relationships with clarity and self-respect, which can be purchased here.